Reducing the Chaos Caused by Divorce

Divorce creates chaos. The chaos is caused by changes in residences, self-perceptions, finances, social relationships, parenting, and more.

Essentially, the rule book by which you have been playing has been destroyed. When this happens, your behavior can become odd. You may find yourself reverting to the lifestyle of your single days, even though it conflicts with your current maturity. You may participate in self-destructive activities involving drugs and alcohol. You might develop unwise relationships with members of the opposite sex.

The advice which follows is designed to protect you during your transition period. These rules of

behavior during your divorce will help you weather the storm that is about to engulf you.

The rules fall into 3 categories:

1. Limit change. If it isn’t broken, don’t fix it. If it doesn’t have to be changed, don’t change it.

2. Protect people. Protect children first, you second, and yes, spouse third.

3. Protect financial positions. Provide for necessities, preserve assets, and pay bills.