Your marriage is over, and you know it.

A request for divorce is not always something that a spouse sees coming ahead of time. The stresses of life, parenting, finances – and now the coronavirus – can distract a person from seeing the state of their marriage. When their spouse informs them that the marriage is over, it comes as a complete shock.

While it is understandable that you may feel lost and not know what to do, it is essential that you keep a clear head and not allow your emotions to overwhelm you. One of the best ways to do this is to seek help – from friends, family, a therapist, or clergy. However, choose people who will support you and your decisions, but not try to steer you into a situation that would only make things worse.

You should also seek out an attorney to advise you on your legal options. If your spouse has already filed and you have received court documents in the case, then you have a limited amount of time to file a response before the court determines that you are in default. If your spouse has not filed, you may wish to file first, as this can make you feel more empowered.

The most important thing to remember is that this, too, will end – and you will be okay. Your kids will be alright. It might take a while, but with the right support, everything works out. This article on parents.com may give you ideas on how to handle this new period in your life.